MAMA JO REVISITED: Mother’s Day Without Her

Mama Jo 2004

This Mother’s Day, 2016, marks the eleventh one without Mama Jo. It’s always been tinged with sadness since her passing, but this one will be particularly hard. I recently completed reading and editing the audiobook of When I Married My Mother. I read it four times, all nine hours, before I had it right. Every single time, when I reached the end, it was as though I was losing her all over again. I was wiped out. Immobilized.

And yet, I also laughed and laughed. Oh, what a crazy story! What fun we had. Did I really do that? Did my brother and I and his wife clean out that horrible house? Did I fall in love with the Damn Dolls? Were they truly some of the best years of my life? Absolutely. Still.

What would have happened if I had not taken that leap of faith to leave New York City and take care of her? Never did I think I would move to North Carolina and stay. But I did and I’m a better person for it.

Thank you, Mama Jo. What I would give to hold your hand one more time. Or hear you say, “Bye, now.”

Christmas 2005, Mama Jo and Jo Jr.

 

 

4 Comments

  1. Teresa on May 8, 2016 at 7:38 am

    You captured it so well, Jo. You are a wise woman and I am so glad you moved to North Carolina! I wish that I had known Mama Jo. After reading your book, I actually felt as if I did know her.
    Much love to you!

  2. Mim Scalin on May 8, 2016 at 8:56 am

    Nice, Jo. This is my first year not having to buy a Mother’s Day card.

    • Jo Maeder on May 8, 2016 at 9:33 am

      So sorry for your loss, Mim. Especially today. It’s inescapable.

  3. Jo Maeder on May 8, 2016 at 9:32 am

    Thank you, Teresa. I wish I had been wiser and got to know Mama Jo sooner. Better late than never. Happy Mother’s Day!

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